My husband has been in South Korea for the past 6 months. He just came home on leave a few days ago... he'll be here for a whole month. The kids are thrilled. I'm thrilled! We were not planning on this being a year of separation.. I had planned since day one how we would get over to Korea, no matter what, and stay together as a family. I researched the ways to get there Non-Command Sponsored, in the likely case that our command sponsorship was denied(which surprise, it was) I did as much as I could, I prayed hard for God's will in this(and prayed that God's will PLEASE be the same as my will PLEASEPLEASEPLEASE) but in the end... none of it worked out. I was so confident that if I just tried to stay positive, that if I told myself we WOULD get there, no matter... that it would happen... but sometimes God has other plans. Sometimes life happens. Sometimes you're needed exactly where you don't want to be.
Regardless of the why I'm still in the states, in the states I am.
So far since he joined the army 5 and 1/2 years ago, he's been gone for his 5 month OSUT, 12 months in Iraq, and now this.. It could be a lot worse... I am so thankful for the times that we have together... but the separation is still hard... because I know it's hard for my kids. I don't mind it as much, a year isn't too bad, honestly... but then I think of what he has to miss of our children's life, and it makes me sad. Our youngest was a 6 weeks old when he deployed. By the time he gets back from his tour in Korea he will have almost spent half of our daughters life away from her.... I am sad for him because of this.... I don't let myself admit it much, nor do I let myself think on it often... because what's the use. This is military life, it's just the way it is. Like I said before, I don't mind. I also know we have been lucky compared to some...yet... since my husband has been home on leave... I've been sad. I've been extremely happy. Elated. Truely... but also sad, because I know how much it hurts my son, how much he struggles, how close he used to be with his father, and how distant he's become in comparison.
When I told my kids their daddy was coming home on leave, my son wasn't happy... he was sad. He cried and said, "But he doesn't get to stay! It's not fair" He couldn't be happy, because he knew it was only temporary...and when you're 7 six months is such a long time....
Wow...well this wasn't what I was planning on making this post about, but I guess I just needed to get it out there.. hmm.
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